Problems should not be solved
Does that sound weird to you? You probably learned that you should solve problems. So did I. But i changed my thoughts about the “problem solving attitude”. Solving problems never really worked well. Okay, I solved some of them but you know what happens: after solving issue A issue B is knocking on your door, and so on. A never ending problem circle. Do you recognise this? Think back about situations in your life and ask yourself if problems in your life are gone or still present…
People are very creative, our mind is for sure! When we face challenges in life we start thinking about how to overcome them. We think about several strategies, most people do that. Our mind is working non stop. When thinking of solutions we also focus on the problem/situation itself and what might happen if there is no solution. For example: you face an empty or almost empty bank account. You start thinking what to do to fill it, because bills got to be paid etc. So you need money asap. Your mind thinks about selling stuff, looking for a job, earning some pennies online, a loan, and so on… Meanwhile you realise you need a miracle. And then fear comes in: what if you will not be able to earn a single dollar… you won’t be able to pay the bills, you have no food on the table, you… (fill in the blank). You start feeling panic, fearfull thoughts arise, your heartbeat rises, you feel very bad! Some people will even start feeling depressed, not knowing what to do. Imagine what this does to your body and your mood!
What you focus on will grow bigger
So you focus on your issue, in our example the empty bank account, but it can be any kind of problem. You don’t feel good, because besides you try to solve the situation, you worry about the outcome. We all do if we act like this. Your energy is low, your mood fearfull, down, angry, or you experience panic. You start feeling tired because of all the worries you experience. And you can’t stop thinking about them. Instead of taking a break your mind creates more fearful thoughts or weird solutions to “solve” your situation. Your focus is on the problem, even when you focus on solutions. Solutions are part of the problem! And it grows bigger and bigger, that is what happens when we try to solve situations and problems. Or in other life experiences. It is a Universal Law: the more you focus on something, the more you think about it, the bigger it gets!
Rise above your problems!
Instead of thinking about your situations, issues, problems, etc. and what to do to “solve” them simply rise above them! Stop putting energy in thoughts and feelings that make you feel bad, sad, fearfull, down, etc. You really don’t want these emotions and thoughts to grow! If you decide to rise above whatever situation you face in life you let it go, you free yourself and chose to feel good, whatever happens. This empties your mind, you will feel relieved even with the empty bank account from our example. Instead of focusing on what to do and being afraid you simply let it go. You refuse to let negative energy in your life, you refuse to feel bad, because those actions won’t help you at all! If you rise above your problems and chose to feel good whatever happens you might be surprised of what will happen.
In a positive state of mind you are open to receive!
Remember what you focus on will grow bigger. Think and feel positive and you will attract solutions for whatever situation on auto-pilot. That is the way the Universe works. You should never worry about situations in life, no matter how challenging they are. Refuse to be overwhelmed, refuse to be a victim of the circumstances. Take back your inner power, rise and rise and rise above all unwanted stuff in life, no matter how big or small the issue is. Step aside and focus on good feelings, take positive actions, accept the problems and situations in your life the way they are and try to learn from them. The Universe will respond in a positive way, believe me, all you need to do is trust in this Universal Law.
It takes time and exercise
It takes some exercise to become an expert in not to worry and stop being a problem solver, enjoy the experience, have patience and do your best. Go for it. Don’t be harsh to yourself if you fail. You can’t fail by the way, by being aware of your thoughts, emotions and moodswings, you are doing a great job! When unwanted feelings, thoughts etc. enter your system simply take a step back, take a deep breath and focus on something completely different. Something that makes YOU feel good.
Your life will start changing for the better. You will experience pleasant surprises, unexpected positive things will come out of the blue! Miracles will happen. That’s what happens if you chose to rise above whatever problem, situation, challenge in life. Try it out, you have nothing to lose. Start with small things and when you are succesfull take it to the next level. Maybe you have a partner or friend that wants to exercise with you, so you have support of someone like minded. Or share your experiences here on WP, share on Facebook, or your personal website. Start journaling!
I wish you the best of luck. You can do it, I know you can! Let me know what you think, share your experiences with me in a comment. I love to hear from you!